In my mind they had formed as problems only because I had had problematic thinking about them without knowing it. I thought those problems were real. But they weren't. What a relief! I'm still sighing.
Our intellect is designed to analyse, classify and inform us about "what we think" and it creates "things" this way. It serves us to learn who our mother is (and what "mother" means, really, the concept or idea of what a mother is), what the difference is between Chocolate and Vanilla icecream (our memories and sticking names on "things") and allows us to learn skills such as driving or riding a bike. But there is one misunderstanding.
The intellect itself is not the source of inspiration! It is like a computer needing the input in the form of a programme so it can process stuff. The processing itself creates "things" (or "files" as results of the metaphorical computing process). When we look at those "things" and want to do something with them, for example change them, unwittingly we are fighting against windmills. In the middle of such fight we are mostly not aware that we don't have to fight at all. Change comes from another direction. It comes naturally. It happens. We can allow it to happen. And then it happens. It's just like learning to ride a bike. First we have no clue how to hold the balance and then - at some point - we suddenly "get" it.
Why? Because we are connected to the source of fresh thoughts at any given moment. We ARE the source actually and that means that we can allow the intellect to produce a new "thing" at any time. We always have this amazing capacity within our mind to create "new things" which replace "old things". Right now we are the source of a new experience! We allow the computer to get new input and then we get better results. It's magic. Phew!