Now today I got something to share with you which opened my eyes just that extra little bit further over the last few days....... I happened to have an epiphany yesterday, when a friend said to me "well if you saw that through the eyes of love, that wouldnt mean the same to you"......... It was one of those typical situations when we feel a victim of our circumstances and suffer a lot....... and here is what I realized:
What we see is what we get! If I see my partner through glasses of "you don't care for me" I will see everything he does through those glasses and guess what I see?? In all his actions I will find proof that he does not care for me.... He doesnt buy soya milk for me (although he knows I don't like cow's milk)?! It must mean that he doesnt care........... It is like a pair of dark sunglasses........ everything I see through those sunglasses appears dark. But is it really dark??????? No, it isn't!! It is just my perception!! Now...... is it really that he doesnt care?! Who knows!! How do I know what he thinks??? Most of the time I'm not even aware of what I think, never mind about other people!!! But if I saw the same situation through the eyes of love, I wouldn't probably even have noticed it and just got the soya milk while doing the shopping together anyway!!!
What we see is what we get! If I see my partner through glasses of "you don't care for me" I will see everything he does through those glasses and guess what I see?? In all his actions I will find proof that he does not care for me.... He doesnt buy soya milk for me (although he knows I don't like cow's milk)?! It must mean that he doesnt care........... It is like a pair of dark sunglasses........ everything I see through those sunglasses appears dark. But is it really dark??????? No, it isn't!! It is just my perception!! Now...... is it really that he doesnt care?! Who knows!! How do I know what he thinks??? Most of the time I'm not even aware of what I think, never mind about other people!!! But if I saw the same situation through the eyes of love, I wouldn't probably even have noticed it and just got the soya milk while doing the shopping together anyway!!!
Now imagine the mix of different views as we usually wear more than one pair of different coloured glasses........ The diversity of glasses is endless......... They could be like "he doesn't love me", "he is always talking about himself" or "I am nothing more than practical for him".......... Guess what kind of experience you perceive through those.....
Glasses determine everything we experience as a feeling.......... If it is a pleasant one, fine. But what if it isn't.... fears, doubts, defensiveness, all the stuff we suffer from comes from nothing more than just the way we see it................
So where do all those glasses come from and - more importantly - how can we take them off?!
Glasses are nothing more than accumulated thoughts which have formed beliefs, opinions and our perspective of life. From being born till we die we soak up what we learn, from our parents, teachers, culture, experiences etc.... Most glasses are unconscious, hidden and invisible; we would swear we don't wear them........ Now what happened to me yesterday was that I became aware of them....... in that very instant I was able to take those glasses off and my view cleared!! It happened automatically with no effort!! What was needed was the insight that I indeed wear glasses (like we all do) - whether we are aware of them or not............
What appeared in my sight afterwards is a much more pleasant perspective of the same situation....... I now see it in a much more loving way, with understanding instead of fury. And I'm shaking my head about myself laughing why I didn't see that before...... Well, we never stop learning ;-)
This is why I don't want you to miss out on the opportunity to learn about the three fundamental building blocks of our experience in more depth...... Join us this weekend in Torrevieja (see info further down)!!.......... The more we see (how it works), the more we get.........
Glasses determine everything we experience as a feeling.......... If it is a pleasant one, fine. But what if it isn't.... fears, doubts, defensiveness, all the stuff we suffer from comes from nothing more than just the way we see it................
So where do all those glasses come from and - more importantly - how can we take them off?!
Glasses are nothing more than accumulated thoughts which have formed beliefs, opinions and our perspective of life. From being born till we die we soak up what we learn, from our parents, teachers, culture, experiences etc.... Most glasses are unconscious, hidden and invisible; we would swear we don't wear them........ Now what happened to me yesterday was that I became aware of them....... in that very instant I was able to take those glasses off and my view cleared!! It happened automatically with no effort!! What was needed was the insight that I indeed wear glasses (like we all do) - whether we are aware of them or not............
What appeared in my sight afterwards is a much more pleasant perspective of the same situation....... I now see it in a much more loving way, with understanding instead of fury. And I'm shaking my head about myself laughing why I didn't see that before...... Well, we never stop learning ;-)
This is why I don't want you to miss out on the opportunity to learn about the three fundamental building blocks of our experience in more depth...... Join us this weekend in Torrevieja (see info further down)!!.......... The more we see (how it works), the more we get.........
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